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ethelmay ([personal profile] ethelmay) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2023-05-19 01:39 am (UTC)

I agree with oursin. Also marrying the first person you ever dated, whom you started dating at sixteen, seems like a red flag. (N.B.: not saying it couldn't be fine. Red flags are a warning sign, not a certainty.)

Though also, if they're both 23 (as is implied by "their college class"), he's most likely been out of school for one year, during a pandemic. While it's generally a fairly hot job market, it's not that surprising if he hasn't gotten a standard good-job-with-benefits yet. (Fatphobia might have something to do with his not getting as many offers as other people, too.) But it's not what I would call an ideal setup for immediate marriage, either, and at 23 they could afford to wait a bit.

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