LW does, in fact, need a reality check, and possibly therapy. Right now she is very unpleasant.
They live too far away to do any babysitting or help in any other way, and even when they visit, their health issues keep them from being as hands-on with the children as real grandparents would be.
So, LW, if your parents were alive but with those same health issues, or living far away, they'd cease being "real grandparents"? Just say that a few times and think about what you're actually saying.
And then there’s this: they give my kids small gifts, while I know my niece—their actual grandchild—stands to inherit a lot of money from them (several million dollars, in fact).
Right now, in the present day, are they giving your niece big and fantastic gifts? Or are you trying to drive a wedge between them for something that might happen sometime hopefully far in the future?
But LW, if this is something that's really troubling you, have you considered asking them about it? I mean, the way you act I'm sure you'll manage to blow it all up, but there's got to be a somewhat tactful way to ask this question of whether or not your kids are getting anything, because I do sorta agree that if, upon their death, they give their grandkid everything and their not grandkids nothing it'll likely make your kids feel like crap and possibly torpedo their relationship with their cousin.
does it read like these people are getting the grandparent experience on the cheap?
FFS, how much do you expect people to pay to be grandparents, and would you hold your own parents to that standard, just send them a bill every month?
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They live too far away to do any babysitting or help in any other way, and even when they visit, their health issues keep them from being as hands-on with the children as real grandparents would be.
So, LW, if your parents were alive but with those same health issues, or living far away, they'd cease being "real grandparents"? Just say that a few times and think about what you're actually saying.
And then there’s this: they give my kids small gifts, while I know my niece—their actual grandchild—stands to inherit a lot of money from them (several million dollars, in fact).
Right now, in the present day, are they giving your niece big and fantastic gifts? Or are you trying to drive a wedge between them for something that might happen sometime hopefully far in the future?
But LW, if this is something that's really troubling you, have you considered asking them about it? I mean, the way you act I'm sure you'll manage to blow it all up, but there's got to be a somewhat tactful way to ask this question of whether or not your kids are getting anything, because I do sorta agree that if, upon their death, they give their grandkid everything and their not grandkids nothing it'll likely make your kids feel like crap and possibly torpedo their relationship with their cousin.
does it read like these people are getting the grandparent experience on the cheap?
FFS, how much do you expect people to pay to be grandparents, and would you hold your own parents to that standard, just send them a bill every month?