It’s Hax, so of course it’s such excellent advice. I don’t know if I could have gotten through my initial reaction of "what a mean, striveled little person you are--just leave everyone trying to be happy alone!” But after reading the advice, I looked back at LW’s last line asking what to do with her feelings and am getting the empathy Carolyn is extending her on how to be more generous of feeling. Someone truly set in their ways wouldn’t end with realizing her feelings are a problem and ask what to do with them--she isn’t turning her anger or even jealousy into blaming others. She’s just stuck. May she take the advice she’s gotten to heart. I wish the bride or groom were as generous as the first reader who tried to get her mom involved in other ways than money--she needs someone generous in her life to pull her into the dance and another who sits in the corner with her who says, “Go! Go dance!” Doesn’t everybody?