I used to joke that I was a housecat (because “I’m disabled and had to give up my career” is really depressing), but since I no longer have a nesting partner, it gives me a twinge and I don’t say it anymore.
But I can quite honestly say that I’m an artist, and a freelance editor/proofreader, and then redirect the conversation to something more interesting — that way, I’m not stuck explaining (or, worse, DEFENDING) my health to a stranger or acquaintance.
I do wish that the LW wouldn’t get a hard time from some people if they said they were a homemaker, because it IS a valid life choice, but I’m realistic about the fact that other people cannot be persuaded to keep their opinions to themselves.
But, yes — LW, tell these people something about your interests, studies, or hobbies/pursuits, and it’s really not their business whether you’re doing it for money.
Also — I feel like “trophy wife” may be the wrong term here. It has a lot of implications that don’t align with “non-working spouse,” and there generally is not the assumption that a trophy wife is engaged in intellectual pursuits!
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But I can quite honestly say that I’m an artist, and a freelance editor/proofreader, and then redirect the conversation to something more interesting — that way, I’m not stuck explaining (or, worse, DEFENDING) my health to a stranger or acquaintance.
I do wish that the LW wouldn’t get a hard time from some people if they said they were a homemaker, because it IS a valid life choice, but I’m realistic about the fact that other people cannot be persuaded to keep their opinions to themselves.
But, yes — LW, tell these people something about your interests, studies, or hobbies/pursuits, and it’s really not their business whether you’re doing it for money.
Also — I feel like “trophy wife” may be the wrong term here. It has a lot of implications that don’t align with “non-working spouse,” and there generally is not the assumption that a trophy wife is engaged in intellectual pursuits!