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DEAR ABBY: Last year, two former classmates bought houses next door to me. I don't mind one of them, but the other, "Evie," is a snippy know-it-all with a sugar daddy boyfriend. She looks down on everyone. In addition to yelling over the fence when they see us outside or on our back deck, they have invited my husband and me to dinner at their house and for happy hour several times. I have made excuses, but I'm running out of them. I have no intention of accepting these invitations. My husband thinks we should "just get it over with" and go, but I'm afraid accepting will just open doors for more. Help! -- NO, THANK YOU, IN WASHINGTON

DEAR NO, THANK YOU: Your husband may mean well, but I agree with you. Do not accept. Continue telling Evie and her boyfriend that you have "other plans" and pray they eventually get the hint.

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1. LW, I don't know if Evie is "snippy" or "looks down on everyone" but I know that you sure are being rude.

2. Stop making excuses. Just tell Evie that you don't like her and don't want to socialize with her. In fact, if you use the phrase "sugar daddy boyfriend" to her face I can pretty much guarantee that she'll never talk to you again. You don't mind burning those bridges, do you?

For someone who is snippy and looks down on everyone, Evie sure is keen to be a friendly neighbour. I'd almost suggest giving hanging out a chance, but LW seems like they'd be rude and refuse to enjoy it.

Yeah I was going to suggest this too, but I think Evie deserves better than having to put up with LW as a guest.

Right? It's almost like people can change after high school

...or LW could use their words and say "I don't want to come over, stop asking", instead of hoping Evie will magically read their mind about "sorry I'm busy tonight" (or whatever) being a "never"

but that would involve maybe sounding Rude[tm] to ... someone wanting to be friends idk

... LW sounds nice.

either this letter was edited to hell & back, and abby knows a lot more than we do about Evie's actual behavior, or abby is just terrible at advice.

At least one of those things is true...

"Evie," is a snippy know-it-all with a sugar daddy boyfriend. She looks down on everyone. In addition to yelling over the fence when they see us outside or on our back deck, they have invited my husband and me to dinner at their house and for happy hour several times.

Someone looks down on their neighbours, and it isn't Evie.

You can say that again.

1. Where is LW living and what school did they go to that former classmates who are recent enough for LW to remember can afford houses, even with a sugar daddy boyfriend?

2. OK, LW, I'll take your word for it that Evie looks down on everyone, but unless this letter was massively cut, what I'm seeing is annoying possibly performative over-friendliness, not condescension.

3. If LW owns their house and Evie owns her house, they may be living next to each other for some time. Does LW really want to alienate someone who they may have to negotiate with over a tree that needs to come down, a hole in the fence, a party that's going to be loud and take up a lot of street parking, or any of a hundred things that next-door neighbors might need to work out? From what LW says, Evie isn't vile; she's annoying. LW needs to learn how to cope with her. Which doesn't mean LW has to socialize with Evie, but LW needs to figure out a baseline level of pleasant friendliness that they can manage.

Edited 2022-12-05 00:33 (UTC)

Look, just accept their invitation and go join their sex dungeon. You know you secretly want to.

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