I agree broadly, but also in some of these areas where I'd need to know more to make a fair judgement (dietary needs, birth parent's history), I feel like I don't have any right to know. So e.g. I don't want to put myself in a judge-ing position or mindset over anyone's choice of food or diet, because whether they have medical stuff going on or just really really like roast beef isn't my business.

(We can also get into super-frustrating areas like my autistic children being labelled 'picky' for having very strong preferences about food textures - is that a 'medical' issue because of their sensory processing or 'just a preference'? So much going on about gatekeeping and authority and who gets to decide things.)