Further musings... LW, you write, as I mentioned, the sketchiest of histories, but one thing is pretty clear: you and your first wife tore apart your marriage in a rather bloody carnage when your kid was barely learning how to interact with the world, and you don't mention anything about addressing the trauma that that caused. I'm not casting blame for that carnage, but don't you think it might have some bearing on how your kid has grown up?