Why say something to the rest of the family?? What would that accomplish?
I’d view it as “This is an urn that I was given to honor Paula,” and either put the contents inside something opaque (so future caretakers are less likely to peek) and back into the urn…
…or inquire as to interment or scattering of the remains in whatever way the LW feels is respectful, if that feels more appropriate to them.
Whatever choice the LW makes, I’d suggest keeping it to themselves.
(I am admittedly not super-precious about human remains — if scattering ashes was good enough for the real Paula, I’m not sure why it wouldn’t be sufficient for whoever’s ashes are in the urn.)
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I’d view it as “This is an urn that I was given to honor Paula,” and either put the contents inside something opaque (so future caretakers are less likely to peek) and back into the urn…
…or inquire as to interment or scattering of the remains in whatever way the LW feels is respectful, if that feels more appropriate to them.
Whatever choice the LW makes, I’d suggest keeping it to themselves.
(I am admittedly not super-precious about human remains — if scattering ashes was good enough for the real Paula, I’m not sure why it wouldn’t be sufficient for whoever’s ashes are in the urn.)