Uh. Why is everyone involved here acting like the husband's account means the hospital visit wasn't justified? Kidney infections can hurt a LOT and severe abdominal pain + vomiting is ABSOLUTELY justified to get medical help, it could be on par with a kidney stone or appendicitis for pain!
Like the original LW's account does seem to be slanted in a particular way, but also the husband's account is setting off ALL my alarm bells, and Pru seems to have missed them entirely. She was diagnosed with a chronic illness! She was in probably severe pain! He brushes off her diagnosed chronic illness, yelled at her for vomiting when she had food poisoning, grabbed the phone out of her hand to stop her while she was calling 911, minimized *a kidney infection*, badgered her into apologizing for needing to go to the hospital *while they were at the hospital*... and is doing a very good job of smoothing everything over with a bit of "ignore the little woman, I suspect she's got a touch of hysteria".
If she did deliberately stop taking her antibiotics just so she could be "legitimately" sick, that's concerning, but it's *probably* because she's married to a total asshole who has been invalidating her real health concerns for a decade!
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Like the original LW's account does seem to be slanted in a particular way, but also the husband's account is setting off ALL my alarm bells, and Pru seems to have missed them entirely. She was diagnosed with a chronic illness! She was in probably severe pain! He brushes off her diagnosed chronic illness, yelled at her for vomiting when she had food poisoning, grabbed the phone out of her hand to stop her while she was calling 911, minimized *a kidney infection*, badgered her into apologizing for needing to go to the hospital *while they were at the hospital*... and is doing a very good job of smoothing everything over with a bit of "ignore the little woman, I suspect she's got a touch of hysteria".
If she did deliberately stop taking her antibiotics just so she could be "legitimately" sick, that's concerning, but it's *probably* because she's married to a total asshole who has been invalidating her real health concerns for a decade!