My husband doesn’t want to get involved, and I don’t blame him.
Tough luck, because he IS involved! This is his mom, and she's being a total witch to his wife for no fucking reason*! So he needs to buck up and back her up - starting with telling her in no uncertain terms that either this stops or she loses contact.
Meanwhile, LW needs to fucking block all that shit on facebook and elsewhere, stop buying this woman gifts, and never ever speak to this woman again. Let her son deal with her.
* Unless there is no passive-aggression and LW is seeing that where it doesn't exist. I don't think that's the case here, but it could happen, so if that's what's going on then he needs to... basically do the same thing, which is manage all communication with his mom so she and his wife never interact. And do it without whining.
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Tough luck, because he IS involved! This is his mom, and she's being a total witch to his wife for no fucking reason*! So he needs to buck up and back her up - starting with telling her in no uncertain terms that either this stops or she loses contact.
Meanwhile, LW needs to fucking block all that shit on facebook and elsewhere, stop buying this woman gifts, and never ever speak to this woman again. Let her son deal with her.
* Unless there is no passive-aggression and LW is seeing that where it doesn't exist. I don't think that's the case here, but it could happen, so if that's what's going on then he needs to... basically do the same thing, which is manage all communication with his mom so she and his wife never interact. And do it without whining.