The spin--do remember that “getting their clients out of trouble” that the Q mentions, involves screwing over their clients victims. Even if it’s a “generous” settlement, it is made to keep their client dealing with the extent of the law and full justice being served for their abusive behavior and getting away with paying out as little as the victim of their abuse is willing to accept. Whether they are the "better kind" who instruct their client on how the law expects them to behave, which will be a start to their client’s learning curve on reforming or improving their skills on not being caught, or the worse kind who is deliberately enabling abusers by manipulating the law to best serve them, they are not there to help the abused. Q is full of shit and dolling it out, whether in serious denial or not. The Trump layers who leave instead of enabling are no ethical angels either--they know who they are helping and at the expense of the rest of us--they just are more risk adverse for themselves than the ones who enable Trump further. Don’t be sucked into the bothsidesism in either of these cases.

And I’m so, so sorry for what this very good young woman is going through. I hope her therapist tells her that trying to sort through the layers of rationalizations that motivate her father are not going to help her rage at the cruelty of abusers and their enablers--she should try to keep her rage at her abuser separate from her old and complicated rage at her father as best she can and focus on her needs right now. The world is filled with monsters who can be loving and kind to their own tribe, as well as moral reformers who better the world but are monsters to those closest to them. She needs to find a way to deal with the moral ambiguities of humankind and become whole and functional again--she needs to spend no more energy on her father's motivations now and needs to put all her focus on her own health--she is important--her partner is important--her father is not and that needs to be her mantra every time she finds herself going round in the old circles in her head again. And no wasting time on whether she should be grateful he is helping her--it is not important right now. She must center herself and her therapist needs to help her learn how to push everything else aside.