I had the same question about who exactly was the abuser.
The kids have an existing relationship with their grandparents. Which option -- severing that relationship, or maintaining it cautiously -- would cause least harm to the kids?
If the grandparents were the abusers, then yes, the kids' pain from losing grandparental contact is outweighed by the duty to protect the kids from abuse. But if the grandparents hadn't known about the abuse until their son told them, then I can see allowing the kids to spend time with their grandparents, supervised by LW so that her husband can stay no-contact with them.
And that said, LW's husband would likely be better off with no contact at all, so there's weighing his needs against the kids'. Or if LW can't cope with being the supervising parent knowing what she now knows, then they may have to cut the kids off from their grandparents because there's no one trusted to supervise. A lot would depend on the kids' ages too; I'd expect a nine-year-old who's been close to their grandparents to have more trouble with having that relationship cut off than a three-year-old would.
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The kids have an existing relationship with their grandparents. Which option -- severing that relationship, or maintaining it cautiously -- would cause least harm to the kids?
If the grandparents were the abusers, then yes, the kids' pain from losing grandparental contact is outweighed by the duty to protect the kids from abuse. But if the grandparents hadn't known about the abuse until their son told them, then I can see allowing the kids to spend time with their grandparents, supervised by LW so that her husband can stay no-contact with them.
And that said, LW's husband would likely be better off with no contact at all, so there's weighing his needs against the kids'. Or if LW can't cope with being the supervising parent knowing what she now knows, then they may have to cut the kids off from their grandparents because there's no one trusted to supervise. A lot would depend on the kids' ages too; I'd expect a nine-year-old who's been close to their grandparents to have more trouble with having that relationship cut off than a three-year-old would.