I mean, the supportive and unbothered face we showed to our kid was not all there was to it, and I have a LOT more sympathy now for the parents of trans people who say things like "it feels like my son died" -- I do NOT sympathize with them putting that on their kid at all, but I do understand the underlying feeling (which, as a genderweird person myself I was ABSOLUTELY not expecting to feel).

SO, I guess I understand being unsupportive inside your own head, but I do not understand being unsupportive to your child's face. That's plain bad parenting bullcrap nonsense.