My first gut thought.. LWs parents only like little ones. And they feel deprived of time with the 3 & 5 yr old. What I see is the LW who likely feels abandoned by their parents growing up now feeling like they have to give their parents the babies they so enjoy.. knowing that those babies will grow up and their parents will become less interested in spending any time and abandoning them. To me it looks like the LW is trying to spare their kids some heartbreak as well as themselves. (also LW your parents didn't invest in YOU while you actually were growing up under their roof. I can see how you feel they don't want to invest in your kids either.)
And on the other hand they have real interactive grandparents who want to do all the daily stuff AS WELL AS the fun stuff. Actual real help and not the "ooooh babies gimme" that LW's parents seem to want.
And yes there is money involved and that also adds a layer. But if you can separate the money issue and the abandonment issue.. what you have are grandparents that want more interaction but have a history of neglect. If I were LW I would inform them that they can arrange to come see the kids and recommend a hotel or airBnB nearby and if they come, they come. If they start being more than just people who enjoy babies and actually enjoy being with your little people than I would maybe consider making plans with them that involve plans you already have. Say a family vacation and they can also come (and pay their own hotel etc).
But if they prove to be the kind of parents you remember.. and stop paying attention to your kids as they grow older.. I would be fine cutting them out of my life. I find people who love babies and only babies and who ignore the older kids have their own problems and I tend to not want to deal with that.
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And on the other hand they have real interactive grandparents who want to do all the daily stuff AS WELL AS the fun stuff. Actual real help and not the "ooooh babies gimme" that LW's parents seem to want.
And yes there is money involved and that also adds a layer. But if you can separate the money issue and the abandonment issue.. what you have are grandparents that want more interaction but have a history of neglect. If I were LW I would inform them that they can arrange to come see the kids and recommend a hotel or airBnB nearby and if they come, they come. If they start being more than just people who enjoy babies and actually enjoy being with your little people than I would maybe consider making plans with them that involve plans you already have. Say a family vacation and they can also come (and pay their own hotel etc).
But if they prove to be the kind of parents you remember.. and stop paying attention to your kids as they grow older.. I would be fine cutting them out of my life. I find people who love babies and only babies and who ignore the older kids have their own problems and I tend to not want to deal with that.