Family planning was something spouse and I talked about bluntly and periodically since dating, and in my case I was not putting my body on the line with pregnancy for a guy who wouldn't get the snip when we were done. That's the bias I'm bringing in.

They still don't truly agree on the number of kids. It feels like he's still looking for that third baby, or at least cherishing the possibility of maybe. Meanwhile she's looking for more of his skin in the game than "supportive of your complex feelings" about forced reproduction. That's a huge disconnect that condoms won't resolve.