“Jo” is the name they’re using as an example, their real name is something else, so we can’t count on it being a sound-alike.

Even if others aren’t being INTENTIONALLY transphobic, the impact is still there — OP has to wonder, every time someone calls him by something other than his chosen name, if the person is just being inconsiderate or is doing it on purpose to invalidate his gender.

That constant state of limbo and motive-guessing is, frankly, exhausting.

The end result is a series of microaggressions, even if the people around OP are just being sloppy and rude.