I have a lot of sympathy for people facing this issue in general, and I know it's a widespread issue, but in this case my opinion is that the LW is being proactive when it is not in her best interest to be proactive.
"They will share their calendar availability via email but not offer to send the Zoom information, leaving me to do so." -- OK, if you're not their assistant, then this is their problem.
"Or they will ask an unnecessary “Do you want me to set up a conference line?” once the time is already set." Either reply and say "yes" or don't reply at all and let them figure out the obvious themselves.
"Both jumped in to say nice things about wanting to meet each other, but neither mentioned any interest in scheduling the call, leaving it to me to either let it drop or schedule it myself." Then let it drop.
I mean, these guys may very well be thinking, "Oh, there's a woman involved now, so she'll do this work," or they may not be thinking at all but have a vague, subconscious sense that when a female name appears, meetings and communication seem to happen by magic -- but as long as she's not going to experience negative consequences if their meetings and communication fail to happen, she should step back and let them fail to happen.
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"They will share their calendar availability via email but not offer to send the Zoom information, leaving me to do so." -- OK, if you're not their assistant, then this is their problem.
"Or they will ask an unnecessary “Do you want me to set up a conference line?” once the time is already set." Either reply and say "yes" or don't reply at all and let them figure out the obvious themselves.
"Both jumped in to say nice things about wanting to meet each other, but neither mentioned any interest in scheduling the call, leaving it to me to either let it drop or schedule it myself." Then let it drop.
I mean, these guys may very well be thinking, "Oh, there's a woman involved now, so she'll do this work," or they may not be thinking at all but have a vague, subconscious sense that when a female name appears, meetings and communication seem to happen by magic -- but as long as she's not going to experience negative consequences if their meetings and communication fail to happen, she should step back and let them fail to happen.