Spouse and I have both been in this position, albeit in different ways, and the ultimate conclusion we came to was this:
1. We made life decisions, particularly career decisions, that almost certainly meant not staying where our parents were (plus, you know, his parents and mine lived like 2000 miles apart). Our parents made similar decisions when they were younger. That is the way of modern America. (The number of times I tried to get my MiL, who never held a job for more than a year in her life, to understand that my career would be irretrievably fucked if we moved back to AZ was mind-numbing.) We eventually accepted that this meant we would not have, say, grandparent weekends for the kiddo, as well.
2. If our parents will not accept the help we can offer them, which would involve moving to where we live, then they are going to have to make their own arrangements for the future.
3. Our primary responsibility is to the child we chose to bring into the world. If that sounds ungrateful, well, tough. Note that I'm not saying single or childless/free people have more of an obligation to parents, just that LW is perfectly justified in choosing what is best for their children.
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1. We made life decisions, particularly career decisions, that almost certainly meant not staying where our parents were (plus, you know, his parents and mine lived like 2000 miles apart). Our parents made similar decisions when they were younger. That is the way of modern America. (The number of times I tried to get my MiL, who never held a job for more than a year in her life, to understand that my career would be irretrievably fucked if we moved back to AZ was mind-numbing.) We eventually accepted that this meant we would not have, say, grandparent weekends for the kiddo, as well.
2. If our parents will not accept the help we can offer them, which would involve moving to where we live, then they are going to have to make their own arrangements for the future.
3. Our primary responsibility is to the child we chose to bring into the world. If that sounds ungrateful, well, tough. Note that I'm not saying single or childless/free people have more of an obligation to parents, just that LW is perfectly justified in choosing what is best for their children.