Distasteful? yeah that word was NOT the right word.

I agree that in many ways you should never expect inheritance money. (I always used to say to someone who often told me about their inheritance.. not to expect it. They could change their will to give it all away to the republican puppies foundation) But in some ways it is the only money windfall someone might receive.

In many ways the elders in this family have already shown you their plans LW. They haven't helped you with housing. They have expected you to help them. It is a giving relationship by you to them. And it does not look to be ever giving back to you in return.