I ended up bcc'ing all my siblings on my Do Not Contact Me email to my father. I hear from them that sometimes he will complain that he doesn't know why I'm not in touch, and their response is always "yes, you do, she told you exactly why."
They don't all AGREE with my decision -- it's frankly very hard to be 100% no-contact with a parent when you have as many siblings as I do, so I am Very Low Contact instead, as in I see him at weddings and funerals -- but telling them exactly why we are not in touch and them knowing exactly what I told him eliminates a LOT of his ability to use them as the middlemen.
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They don't all AGREE with my decision -- it's frankly very hard to be 100% no-contact with a parent when you have as many siblings as I do, so I am Very Low Contact instead, as in I see him at weddings and funerals -- but telling them exactly why we are not in touch and them knowing exactly what I told him eliminates a LOT of his ability to use them as the middlemen.