Hey LW - There's nothing wrong with you if you've found you like a little bit of possessive behavior! It can make you feel safe and valued, it can hit a kink, it can even make you feel safer about your boundaries and limits to know that someone else is helping you watch them.
What is wrong? Is a partner who won't respect your boundaries. You've told him (repeatedly!) that he's gone over the limits of what you do like, and he's responding by getting violent, destroying your property, making excuses, minimizing your objections, and trying to isolate you. And that's just what's in this letter.
Talking about how you're flattered by certain ways of showing possessiveness might be a good conversation to have with a boyfriend. The one you find after you dump this one. The one who has already shown you he's willing to respect all your boundaries even when you're still figuring them out, and never gets violent even to your stuff, and will try to knock it off when you ask him to knock it off.
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What is wrong? Is a partner who won't respect your boundaries. You've told him (repeatedly!) that he's gone over the limits of what you do like, and he's responding by getting violent, destroying your property, making excuses, minimizing your objections, and trying to isolate you. And that's just what's in this letter.
Talking about how you're flattered by certain ways of showing possessiveness might be a good conversation to have with a boyfriend. The one you find after you dump this one. The one who has already shown you he's willing to respect all your boundaries even when you're still figuring them out, and never gets violent even to your stuff, and will try to knock it off when you ask him to knock it off.