I agree with the general "ick" of the situation, but this is what particularly jumped out at me:
But she does [want kids], and I think I’m up for it. I’m in my early 50s, in excellent shape, and my parents and grandparents all lived to at least 80.
LW, I know someone who had his first kid at 49 and his second in his early 50s. While he loves his kids, he would be the first to say "are you out of your freaking mind????"
You may well be healthy (for now), but your body is aging nonetheless. You won't have as easy a time wrangling your theoretical kid(s) in your 50s and 60s as you did wrangling Isabella when you were in your 20s and 30s. You'll be 70 or older by time your younger kids graduate high school (and have you thought about what post-secondary education is going to cost by then?). Yes, fertilizing an egg may make you feel you haven't lost your youth and virility, but you need to do a lot harder thinking about kids (preferably before you and Madison go through with the ceremony) and the reality of being an aging parent.
(Also, if you do decide to go through with it, which I figure you will because you had so little judgement as to take up with a close friend of your daughter's, get used to the idea that when you're out with the kids, strangers will say "aww, your grandchildren are so cute!")
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But she does [want kids], and I think I’m up for it. I’m in my early 50s, in excellent shape, and my parents and grandparents all lived to at least 80.
LW, I know someone who had his first kid at 49 and his second in his early 50s. While he loves his kids, he would be the first to say "are you out of your freaking mind????"
You may well be healthy (for now), but your body is aging nonetheless. You won't have as easy a time wrangling your theoretical kid(s) in your 50s and 60s as you did wrangling Isabella when you were in your 20s and 30s. You'll be 70 or older by time your younger kids graduate high school (and have you thought about what post-secondary education is going to cost by then?). Yes, fertilizing an egg may make you feel you haven't lost your youth and virility, but you need to do a lot harder thinking about kids (preferably before you and Madison go through with the ceremony) and the reality of being an aging parent.
(Also, if you do decide to go through with it, which I figure you will because you had so little judgement as to take up with a close friend of your daughter's, get used to the idea that when you're out with the kids, strangers will say "aww, your grandchildren are so cute!")