I was the daughter and my parents of course flew off the handle. The class was Calculus, which I found just plain completely different from any other math I'd ever done and it kicked my ass. My parents of course concluded I wasn't doing my homework, was skipping class (hard to do at boarding school), would lose my college admissions, etc. I panicked and couldn't figure out what help I needed, how to explain what I was having trouble with, and instead of helping me figure it out my parents just lectured me about laziness, about how reading sci-fi novels was messing with my actual understanding of math and science, about how I was going to Lose My Whole Future. I barely passed and they made me write a letter to my college apologizing for my bad grade. I doubt anyone even read the letter.
If LW is interested in their child as an actual person and not just Progeny Who Must Obey, they could try the one thing my parents wouldn't. They could TALK to their daughter, or rather, LISTEN to her. Why is this course so different? Why doesn't she get along with the teacher? What help would she like? Maybe they can help her figure out what help is possible, if they approach this as an opportunity to help her rather than punish her.
Or listen to Harriette and my parents. IDK. I do know I haven't talked to my parents on the phone this calendar year and haven't seen them in several. Does LW want a relationship like that when Daughter is grown?
I lived this one
If LW is interested in their child as an actual person and not just Progeny Who Must Obey, they could try the one thing my parents wouldn't. They could TALK to their daughter, or rather, LISTEN to her. Why is this course so different? Why doesn't she get along with the teacher? What help would she like? Maybe they can help her figure out what help is possible, if they approach this as an opportunity to help her rather than punish her.
Or listen to Harriette and my parents. IDK. I do know I haven't talked to my parents on the phone this calendar year and haven't seen them in several. Does LW want a relationship like that when Daughter is grown?