the columnist is insufficiently DTMFA, even if they;re being gentle.: this is a job for the whole partner disposal service.
If this were a normal disagreement, where partner just wants oral sex and it's starting to be a relationship issue, there are negotiations that can take place. Hell, Dan Savage-of-old would tell LW to explore polyamory or GTFO in that circumstance. A sex therapist might be able to help LW explore different ways of giving oral sex, or help the couple come up with equally satisfactory options.
But that's not what's going on here. This is "I was told that they will not go forever without it, and that I needed to figure it out", which is sexual coercion, abusive behaviour, and utter bullshit. There's no fixing this, if that sentence is accurate; partner needs to be yeeted into the sun.
DTMFA, LW. DTMFA, please.
the columnist is insufficiently DTMFA, even if they;re being gentle.: this is a job for the whole partner disposal service.
If this were a normal disagreement, where partner just wants oral sex and it's starting to be a relationship issue, there are negotiations that can take place. Hell, Dan Savage-of-old would tell LW to explore polyamory or GTFO in that circumstance. A sex therapist might be able to help LW explore different ways of giving oral sex, or help the couple come up with equally satisfactory options.
But that's not what's going on here. This is "I was told that they will not go forever without it, and that I needed to figure it out", which is sexual coercion, abusive behaviour, and utter bullshit. There's no fixing this, if that sentence is accurate; partner needs to be yeeted into the sun.