Like there are definitely people out there who are pan or bi and they are also into being openly non-monogamous. And then there are people who are pan or bi and are completely into being in committed relationships (mostly likely serial relationships, at least it is that way with me). Heck even a triad can be a committed relationship. But dude got his fantasy ideas and held onto them FAR TOO LONG and just accepted that she would give them to him one day. I hope she is ok.