My practical thought about the (inner packaging unopened) gifts is actually too much work for someone to have to go to because a family member is sending them squicky gifts.

That process:
* Research your local kink club(s)
* Get in contact with one of the organizers
* Explain the situation
* See if they do white elephant style gift exchanges
* Donate the item so they can have a spare so someone who otherwise couldn't participate can be included