Dear Abby: LW prefers just one blond

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend bleached her hair blond for a special event, but recently changed it back to her natural black color. She turned me on even more as a blonde, but I'm not sure how to tell her. Would I be out of line to ask her to go blond again for me? -- LIKES HER BLOND IN NEW YORK

DEAR LIKES HER BLOND: The time for you to have raved about how much you liked her "new look" was before she went back to her natural color. For someone to go from dark to blond, then dark to blond again can be damaging to the hair -- not to mention expensive to maintain.

You can ask, I suppose. But she may not be willing to go along with it. And if that's the case, you're just going to have to love her the way God made her.

P.S. You could buy her a blond wig to wear on "special occasions."

Comments

[recessional]

. . . I am slightly bemused by the entire, like . . . *waves hand* everything here?

Like it does not seem to me all that either remarkable or fraught to go "hey you know when you were blond for [thing]? That was really, really hot and I am a big fan of you going blonde again if you ever want to."

This seems fairly straight forward. Then girlfriend decides whether or not that seems worth it to her, and everyone moves on with their lives?

So LW's treating it as "asking her to go blonde for me" and Abby's treating it like this is THE BIGGEST DEMAND EVER are both very odd to me. I dunno, maybe I'm weird.

[cereta]

I'm posting this here because so many people in the comments seemed to think that (a) telling her he liked her hair blond was insulting, and (b)buying/suggesting a blond wig for sexy funtimes was demeaning, and I don't particularly get either. He's not saying he'd not attracted to her in her natural color, just that the blond hair added a little razz-a-ma-tazz. For all that, it may just be the novelty. I know that much lightning can be damaging to hair (boy, do I know it), but as long as he makes it clear that his attraction is not contingent on it, I don't see why he can't at least mention it.

As someone who is just beginning to grow out my natural color for the first time in fifteen years, I've never had a problem with anyone, let alone my husband, saying, "You know, I thought that red/blond/lighter/darker/pink hair was very flattering." She may not want to maintain it (or perhaps highlights would be a compromise?), but I don't get what the big deal is in casually saying, "You know, if you ever got the urge to color your hair again, I thought that blond was nice." And I *really* don't get why suggesting a blond wig is worse that buying sexy lingerie, as long as he's willing to do something for her during sexytimes.

[azurelunatic]

Length is another factor in whether "hey, would you consider blonde again?" would be an insulting request, but if she was willing to bleach and re-dye, I'm suspecting her hair is not long enough that active breakage avoidance is a major part of her life.

[likeaduck]

I would be such a useless advice columnist, because my reaction is usually, "I don't know, do you think it's out of line?"/"You seem to think it might be, wanna talk about why?"...which is counter to format. More questions than answers.