Yeah this! HOW did things get this way? LW vibes as, Jane has always been the favourite so I am trying really hard at the thing I thought was going to get me favour. So where did she get the idea that this was the favour-giving thing? Who taught her to value a six figure salary over a close relationship with her mom? Have the two kids been treated really differently and valued for different things their whole lives? Did the parents have some sort of change of heart/manner over time? (They wouldn't be the first people who put less emphasis on material success as their own material situation became more secure, for example.) For some reason I'm curious about relative ages/birth order of the LW and Jane.