There's always a part of me that's pleased when an advice columnist actually says, "Nope, divorce is your best option, here." I keep thinking about a point that comes up several times in Grace and Frankie: if the time you have left is limited, how do you want to spend it? And look, 57 is not ancient. Does LW really want to spend three more decades with this woman? Because while there are certainly exceptions (like my grandmother), racists don't usually mellow with age. Actually, very few people really mellow with age.