What I'm hearing from LW is not just that she wants to spend more time with her kids.
She wants them to WANT to spend more time with her.
I'm getting that too.
As a child of a (very clingy, boundary-oblivious) mom whose threshold of minimally acceptable contact is higher than my comfort level, I'm cringing slightly. And thinking of all the capital-H Hints that my mom drops that I don't accommodate...
It's possible she's a nice mom and her [adul] kids enjoy spending time with her. It's possible the kids are perfectly happy either way. It's possible they dread it. I don't know. But the whole "I want X but I also want them to want X so I won't ask, I'll just be disappointed at them" mindreading ploy is ... gah.
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I'm getting that too.
As a child of a (very clingy, boundary-oblivious) mom whose threshold of minimally acceptable contact is higher than my comfort level, I'm cringing slightly. And thinking of all the capital-H Hints that my mom drops that I don't accommodate...
It's possible she's a nice mom and her [adul] kids enjoy spending time with her. It's possible the kids are perfectly happy either way. It's possible they dread it. I don't know. But the whole "I want X but I also want them to want X so I won't ask, I'll just be disappointed at them" mindreading ploy is ... gah.