OK my first date with my now wife was the week of her birthday. And the reason we didn't go out the day we had planned was bc it was her birthday and her friends threw her a little party. But I felt I should do something bc plans were delayed. I made brownies and gave her one with a candle in it.

The big joke still today is I asked her if she wanted silver or gold before I brought the brownie out. (I had silver and gold candles. She was thinking I was about to give her jewelry and she was seeing red flags everywhere) We also joke that I make such a good brownie we are still together today.

I say get something small. Or insist on buying a fancy dessert. Something consumable like dessert means no one will hold onto it as a memento in any way.