*tilts head* See, for me the gas-money comes to "okay but how much gas is he actually using up on me and how much does gas cost?"
Because frankly if he's adding a significant number of trips that he wouldn't otherwise have and gas is where it was, say, last year, then yeah I should absolutely be offering gas money, and especially if it's causing him a financial hit he is absolutely entitled to ask.
There are ways of asking that are crappier than others, but last year it cost me 60$ to fill the tank on my tiny super-efficient car and adding even one full tank to a month was a significant financial burden to me at the time. So unless there were something more or less equal being granted on the other side, I . . . would absolutely ask and expect to be asked, and would RATHER have it all out in the open because in my experience NOTHING sours a relationship worse and faster and in a more difficult-to-address-way than a sense of being taken advantage of, especially when there's actual real factors to back that up. (Like a 60$+ addition to expenses when you're paycheque to paycheque already.)
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Because frankly if he's adding a significant number of trips that he wouldn't otherwise have and gas is where it was, say, last year, then yeah I should absolutely be offering gas money, and especially if it's causing him a financial hit he is absolutely entitled to ask.
There are ways of asking that are crappier than others, but last year it cost me 60$ to fill the tank on my tiny super-efficient car and adding even one full tank to a month was a significant financial burden to me at the time. So unless there were something more or less equal being granted on the other side, I . . . would absolutely ask and expect to be asked, and would RATHER have it all out in the open because in my experience NOTHING sours a relationship worse and faster and in a more difficult-to-address-way than a sense of being taken advantage of, especially when there's actual real factors to back that up. (Like a 60$+ addition to expenses when you're paycheque to paycheque already.)