My question to LW is: what happens after he dies/beats the cancer?
I kinda feel like the cancer shouldn't be part of the equation at all. It's obfuscating the basic fact that she has someone she was in a relationship with who cheated and lied and whose family enabled him with that cheating and lying - someone who doesn't respect her.
Is that going to change if she nurses him through cancer? Or will he pick himself up, find someone else, and leave her bawling and deleting his number from her phone all over again...only this time it'll be after he's used up to another 5 years of her life looking after someone she doesn't actually love anymore?
A note about friends: if I had a friend who was caring for a ne'er-do-well through his personal crisis of whatever, if I valued the friendship and didn't know how to address the issue subtly and sidewise, I would tell them they were strong and amazing and I couldn't do what they were doing - with absolute truth. She might find that her friends are of the "oh god, I'm so glad you dumped him, he was a complete tool but I didn't dare say" persuasion.
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I kinda feel like the cancer shouldn't be part of the equation at all. It's obfuscating the basic fact that she has someone she was in a relationship with who cheated and lied and whose family enabled him with that cheating and lying - someone who doesn't respect her.
Is that going to change if she nurses him through cancer? Or will he pick himself up, find someone else, and leave her bawling and deleting his number from her phone all over again...only this time it'll be after he's used up to another 5 years of her life looking after someone she doesn't actually love anymore?
A note about friends: if I had a friend who was caring for a ne'er-do-well through his personal crisis of whatever, if I valued the friendship and didn't know how to address the issue subtly and sidewise, I would tell them they were strong and amazing and I couldn't do what they were doing - with absolute truth. She might find that her friends are of the "oh god, I'm so glad you dumped him, he was a complete tool but I didn't dare say" persuasion.