This is the kind of advice I loved captain awkward for back in the day. You're allowed to leave. You're allowed to have the boundary that people who treat you like garbage don't get to enjoy your company.
IME this type of asshole often can't take what they dish out, either. Not always, but returning their cruelty to sender is a possibly successful strategy for some of these folks.
"Well I guess I'm just a terrible parent, then."
You got to that conclusion all by yourself, but I can tell you good parents don't say things like "quote they just said" to their children. Whom they allegedly love. (And then leave)
“I’m just blunt,” “I was just kidding"
And I just don't care. That was an asshole thing to say and you need to apologize. The next time you do it, I'll leave. (And then leave.)
“you can’t take a joke”
You're right, I can't take shitty, deliberately cruel, unfunny jokes. Stop making them to me, around me, and about me. (And then leave)
Like... there's so much power in not caring about what people think or feel. It doesn't have to take you to a place of cruelty yourself, but "they're going to feel what they feel and I'm not going to feel bad about it" is an interpersonal royal flush for this kind of relationship.
(And tbh I think most people who can do so are better off removing people who are cruel to them from their lives, regardless of but faaaaaamily)
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This is the kind of advice I loved captain awkward for back in the day. You're allowed to leave. You're allowed to have the boundary that people who treat you like garbage don't get to enjoy your company.
IME this type of asshole often can't take what they dish out, either. Not always, but returning their cruelty to sender is a possibly successful strategy for some of these folks.
You got to that conclusion all by yourself, but I can tell you good parents don't say things like "quote they just said" to their children. Whom they allegedly love. (And then leave)
And I just don't care. That was an asshole thing to say and you need to apologize. The next time you do it, I'll leave. (And then leave.)
You're right, I can't take shitty, deliberately cruel, unfunny jokes. Stop making them to me, around me, and about me. (And then leave)
Like... there's so much power in not caring about what people think or feel. It doesn't have to take you to a place of cruelty yourself, but "they're going to feel what they feel and I'm not going to feel bad about it" is an interpersonal royal flush for this kind of relationship.
(And tbh I think most people who can do so are better off removing people who are cruel to them from their lives, regardless of but faaaaaamily)