Just because I am presenting a contrary opinion doesn’t mean I am self-selecting as the sole arbiter on anything. That kind of language really shuts down discussion.

I do think that being a man makes less inclined to automatically jump to negative judgments against men, which may serve me better at some times and worse at others. In this case, I’ve read the (short) letter multiple times to look for language suggesting blame or fault, and I just don’t see it.

If I were doing something that, despite my good intentions, was creating an embarrassing situation for my wife at work, I would want her to tell me! I might be disappointed, but ultimately I’d rather do something genuinely helpful than continue in ignorance. This seems like such a no-brainer.