1. LW's husband is not borderline anything, he's a full blown hypochondriac and probably needs therapy for that. Is hypochondria a symptom of something else like anxiety? Treatment for that too if so.
2. None of this justifies his ongoing campaign of emotional abuse against his wife. You cannot be a good father if you abuse your child's mother - and what's going to happen when he turns his bodyshaming eye on his child? It's going to happen. Sooner or later, he's going to decide that child does not measure up.
3. Every human has pain, but not every human has chronic migraines. And honestly, the combo of migraines + vertigo + ASD rings one very specific bell in my head that says connective tissue disorder, which is pretty common in autistics and can definitely be related to the migraines and vertigo. Which would cause the "aches and pains" that come when we get older, but rarely come on with parents of toddlers because most people don't have their first child in their late 30s or 40s - especially not if they're the one who got pregnant. And if that's a risk factor, then LW needs to be prepared for the very real chance that their days of biking five days a week AND doing the housework AND the paid employment and 60% of the childcare are limited by more than just the aging process.
Anyway, the answer of "when will you not have pain" is "never". LW will never not have pain, unless the migraines end at menopause. That happens sometimes.
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2. None of this justifies his ongoing campaign of emotional abuse against his wife. You cannot be a good father if you abuse your child's mother - and what's going to happen when he turns his bodyshaming eye on his child? It's going to happen. Sooner or later, he's going to decide that child does not measure up.
3. Every human has pain, but not every human has chronic migraines. And honestly, the combo of migraines + vertigo + ASD rings one very specific bell in my head that says connective tissue disorder, which is pretty common in autistics and can definitely be related to the migraines and vertigo. Which would cause the "aches and pains" that come when we get older, but rarely come on with parents of toddlers because most people don't have their first child in their late 30s or 40s - especially not if they're the one who got pregnant. And if that's a risk factor, then LW needs to be prepared for the very real chance that their days of biking five days a week AND doing the housework AND the paid employment and 60% of the childcare are limited by more than just the aging process.
Anyway, the answer of "when will you not have pain" is "never". LW will never not have pain, unless the migraines end at menopause. That happens sometimes.