I mean, it is certainly, certainly possible that this is a big old red flag on top of a deeper issue with communication. I would absolutely not rule that out, and true: the wording makes me uncomfortable. I just don't think every instance of "bringing this up with my partner would probably not get me what I want and/or would be more hassle than it's worth" is necessarily either a giant issue or a solvable problem. People are complicated, and sometimes you have to accept things if you want to continue pretty much any kind of relationship.

Or not! Everyone has different lines. I just sometimes get a little squirmy, because God knows there are things in my marriage that an outsider reading a couple of paragraphs would be flailing and wtf-ing at me over, and that includes things that I just don't bother bringing up with him because I know he has his own big, bright red button screaming "do not press" on top of them. I know I have them, too. So, yeah.