If this really has happened three times that women have broken up with him after a year, citing his long-term family commitments, then he's choosing the wrong women to date and he needs to change his criteria.
I know that sounds simplistic, but he is selecting for traits that are not the traits he says he really wants. Is he dating younger women (he's mid-40s) who might well want their own family and children? Is he dating other divorced people with their own families and entanglements? Is he dating women from social or ethnic backgrounds who would expect him to focus on them? Is he choosing the same personality again and again? Is he genuinely balancing the need to nurture the new relationship against the needs of the children, or is he treating the new partner like a convenience to be enjoyed when he doesn't have other demands on his time?
I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women with or without children, who would date this guy seriously. So he needs to ask himself why he is not seeking them out.
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I know that sounds simplistic, but he is selecting for traits that are not the traits he says he really wants. Is he dating younger women (he's mid-40s) who might well want their own family and children? Is he dating other divorced people with their own families and entanglements? Is he dating women from social or ethnic backgrounds who would expect him to focus on them? Is he choosing the same personality again and again? Is he genuinely balancing the need to nurture the new relationship against the needs of the children, or is he treating the new partner like a convenience to be enjoyed when he doesn't have other demands on his time?
I am absolutely certain that there are a lot of women with or without children, who would date this guy seriously. So he needs to ask himself why he is not seeking them out.