On the other hand, if I had been the husband I would [one not have cheated and two] like to think I would have said, "this is REALLY WEIRD I am calling my doctor ASAP". Because depending on how they are done there is a small but nonzero chance a vasectomy can fail. So even though it was unlikely I think I would rather say, "maybe we are the one in a million chance" and convey to my spouse that I still trust them, than immediately accuse my spouse and possibly break the relationship.
And then of course figure out if 1) the vasectomy failed and 2) who is the father with a DNA test.
I'm not sure I'm adequately explaining what I mean here. But... if I were the LW I would be hurt too. Even though I knew it was largely illogical I would be hurt that he didn't trust me after so much time I had spent being trustworthy, at least not enough to do some investigating first.
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On the other hand, if I had been the husband I would [one not have cheated and two] like to think I would have said, "this is REALLY WEIRD I am calling my doctor ASAP". Because depending on how they are done there is a small but nonzero chance a vasectomy can fail. So even though it was unlikely I think I would rather say, "maybe we are the one in a million chance" and convey to my spouse that I still trust them, than immediately accuse my spouse and possibly break the relationship.
And then of course figure out if 1) the vasectomy failed and 2) who is the father with a DNA test.
I'm not sure I'm adequately explaining what I mean here. But... if I were the LW I would be hurt too. Even though I knew it was largely illogical I would be hurt that he didn't trust me after so much time I had spent being trustworthy, at least not enough to do some investigating first.