Fair! It's definitely not the kids' fault, whatever's going on.
But I don't get the impression he was punishing them? All we get in the letter is that he was angry, so he left the situation, and later complained to another adult in private. If he'd screamed at them or even told him he didn't want them there or something, I would be a lot less on his side! But all we get is that he was upset and went away quietly. It's definitely rude and childish, and he is not a guy I would marry, but "give yourself space so you don't take it out on others" is anger management step 1 for a lot of people. This doesn't seem to be a guy who's trying to take it out on the kids if that really is the worst that's happened. And "sometimes people are rude and it's not about you" is, I feel like, something 7-8 years olds ought to be old enough to start to learn.
But there's definitely missing reasons on one side or another here, because you don't threaten to cut off Uncle George because he was rude once unless there's bigger issues somewhere else. I suspect it's on both sides.
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But I don't get the impression he was punishing them? All we get in the letter is that he was angry, so he left the situation, and later complained to another adult in private. If he'd screamed at them or even told him he didn't want them there or something, I would be a lot less on his side! But all we get is that he was upset and went away quietly. It's definitely rude and childish, and he is not a guy I would marry, but "give yourself space so you don't take it out on others" is anger management step 1 for a lot of people. This doesn't seem to be a guy who's trying to take it out on the kids if that really is the worst that's happened. And "sometimes people are rude and it's not about you" is, I feel like, something 7-8 years olds ought to be old enough to start to learn.
But there's definitely missing reasons on one side or another here, because you don't threaten to cut off Uncle George because he was rude once unless there's bigger issues somewhere else. I suspect it's on both sides.