Yeah, I think without full acceptance, visibility is something that cuts on both ends and it's hard not to be jealous or the the other path (being recognized vs able to blend in) is easier. Especially when people are actively playing us against each other. Ime with non-accepting parents, whatever you identify as on the LGBT spectrum is somehow the 'worst' one. They take a bargaining approach to get you to compromise your self-conception. Which kind of gets to the heart of conversation therapy which is only nominally about producing heterosexuals and chiefly consists of annihilating your sense of self as well as your instincts about your body & intimacy in order to replace it with external standards and constant self-surveillance.