*nod* This is why I made sure to say "Josh may or may not be devoting energy and intimacy to Felix that he should be devoting to LW." Because he really could be. ANd to go deeper, there is a discussion to be had about what Josh "should" devote to each relationship.
I'm just frustrated with LW because she really needs to use her words, and at least 10x more frustrated with the current Prudie who didn't even tell her to.
(Also I should admit: being bi, I'm annoyed on Josh's behalf, and I really dislike it when Person A asks Person B to give up a positive connection to Person C,which helps Person B live a good full life, to prove their love for Person A.)
The single most valuable thing I learned from being poly is that things generally work better when people spend at least some time communicating about their romantic or other life partnership, rather than assuming it will grow into a particular shape without any effort or teamwork from the people involved. I DEFINITELY don't think everyone should be poly but I do wish more people knew that one.
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I'm just frustrated with LW because she really needs to use her words, and at least 10x more frustrated with the current Prudie who didn't even tell her to.
(Also I should admit: being bi, I'm annoyed on Josh's behalf, and I really dislike it when Person A asks Person B to give up a positive connection to Person C,which helps Person B live a good full life, to prove their love for Person A.)
The single most valuable thing I learned from being poly is that things generally work better when people spend at least some time communicating about their romantic or other life partnership, rather than assuming it will grow into a particular shape without any effort or teamwork from the people involved. I DEFINITELY don't think everyone should be poly but I do wish more people knew that one.