I’m five years older than my sister and I definitely remember the lean times in my family much more clearly than she does. It influenced our level of confidence in asking for things as gifts as kids/teens and I tried really hard not to be resentful that she got things (because she asked!) that I would never have considered it okay to ask for.

As adults, I feel like my parents have handled things pretty well in terms of financial help, though I do struggle occasionally with resentment of the large gifts that she & her husband have received from her in-laws. (They got to live rent free on family property for several years and later were outright given a house.)