Yeah, I think it's pretty much a given that Lily went through a lot of financial and probably physical/mental stress while working her way through college and grad school that her parents just decided to wave away as not their problem. While they take credit for the fact that she built herself a life without their support. Her resentment is completely justified.
That whole "we're kicking you out at 18 to fend for yourself, no appeals" ultimatum is HORRIFYING. Like, a lot of parents can't pay for college (although LW seems to imply that they could have and chose not to, UGH), but good parents still want to be there for their kids in whatever ways they can! "If your life crashes and burns, you can always come home" is a low bar for family support and LW & Spouse put some real effort into crawling under it.
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That whole "we're kicking you out at 18 to fend for yourself, no appeals" ultimatum is HORRIFYING. Like, a lot of parents can't pay for college (although LW seems to imply that they could have and chose not to, UGH), but good parents still want to be there for their kids in whatever ways they can! "If your life crashes and burns, you can always come home" is a low bar for family support and LW & Spouse put some real effort into crawling under it.