It's 7am on a Sunday morning in winter with a further 6-8 weeks of lockdown looming and I just LOL'd at:

(“I know the answer always includes therapy but this answer absolutely NEEDS THERAPY!!!!!!!!!!!! SO MANY THERAPY! ALL OF THE THERAPY! Not to introduce shame but to help process how to go forward. Omg,” as nerdista put it)

That was delightful.

Actually, all the parsing out of the issues was delightful, too. I'm sure that sometimes the comments section needs to be set on fire and burned to the ground (and maybe the comment section did need it) but the advice Prudie has gleaned seems good and excellent.