When confronted, his response was that I “was too busy dealing with my child’s mental health crisis to pay attention,” so he went elsewhere for companionship
Maybe the child is not also the husband's child, but even so, fuck that guy. Just into the sun, man. (If it's his child as well, then there are not even words for this bullshit.)
If you need outside companionship while your life partner is dealing with their child's crisis, there are countless options: internet fora, pastoral care, bridge club, cycling friends of any gender, book club, the discord for the bridge club, therapy... (I'd argue that you can't ethically start a conversation about ethical non-monogamy under the stated circumstances, but once you can have that conversation, non-monogamy is also an option.) What you can't do, while your partner is in crisis, is seek out women and lie to them that you have no partner.
(Also, he's being a dick to all the other women. Either he has no intention of meeting them and he's lying to them, or he does intend to meet them under false pretenses.)
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Maybe the child is not also the husband's child, but even so, fuck that guy. Just into the sun, man. (If it's his child as well, then there are not even words for this bullshit.)
If you need outside companionship while your life partner is dealing with their child's crisis, there are countless options: internet fora, pastoral care, bridge club, cycling friends of any gender, book club, the discord for the bridge club, therapy... (I'd argue that you can't ethically start a conversation about ethical non-monogamy under the stated circumstances, but once you can have that conversation, non-monogamy is also an option.) What you can't do, while your partner is in crisis, is seek out women and lie to them that you have no partner.
(Also, he's being a dick to all the other women. Either he has no intention of meeting them and he's lying to them, or he does intend to meet them under false pretenses.)
Seriously. Into the damn sun.