care homes are sometimes necessary and the question of when/whether someone needs one is complicated and nuanced and requiring of compassion all around. i know that. but i don't think this LW knows it.

Yeah, I mean, you know exactly why I have a knee-jerk reaction against the way the important disability activism stance against institutionalization sometimes turns into a nuance-free "close all the nursing homes!" It's messy and complicated. But LW says nothing that implies she was thinking about anything other than warehousing her parents as airquotes-help-airquotes.