My current pain doc is hot AF. Just gorgeous. And when she started being my doctor, I had a deeply uncomfortable first appointment, and then I went home, and made the most conscious mental shift I have ever made, constructing a no-no box and moving her into it. It wasn't easy! But it was non-optional; she's a great doctor and I wasn't going to find anyone else as good.

After a few visits and a lot of practice and mental work I had moved her to where she is now, which is great doctor, quite lovely if you think about it, and also by the way a marvelously nice person.

It can be done, it just takes work. Alison is right; the LW needs to make the effort.

Because if the new employee gets shifted to a position with any less chance of promotion, high-quality mentoring, career advancement, or professional development, then that's a big old bag of lawsuit.