I hope LW #2's daughter gets as far away from her parents as possible, as soon as possible, because A) searching her phone (presumably behind her back, since LW #2 doesn't mention her daughter reacting to this search) is horribly invasive and controlling behavior, and B) what the fuck kind of thought process even IS that?
To bring a personal point of anecdata to the table, I first looked up asexuality online after YEARS AND YEARS of not having sex with anyone and wondering (in a vague, desultory way) if a lack of sexual attraction meant something was wrong with me. You don't need to try out sex with people of whatever group in order to have a feeling that you would or wouldn't like that type (or any type) of sex! *headdesk*
As for LW #1, I'd suggest starting by telling the daughter that she's not going to hell. Hopefully they've already done that, but they didn't say so and given the context of the LW feeling a need to state that they're a religious family, that omission makes me a little suspicious.
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To bring a personal point of anecdata to the table, I first looked up asexuality online after YEARS AND YEARS of not having sex with anyone and wondering (in a vague, desultory way) if a lack of sexual attraction meant something was wrong with me. You don't need to try out sex with people of whatever group in order to have a feeling that you would or wouldn't like that type (or any type) of sex! *headdesk*
As for LW #1, I'd suggest starting by telling the daughter that she's not going to hell. Hopefully they've already done that, but they didn't say so and given the context of the LW feeling a need to state that they're a religious family, that omission makes me a little suspicious.