I mean... as I mentioned above, my partner and I discuss this reasonably often. Contexts have included:
- General discussion of pros & cons of our relationship. We both have previous relationships where the cons were dealbreakers. We both care that we're attracted to our partner, but definitely don't care whether they're objectively attractive or a "10".
- Discussion of past relationships, and what attracted our partners to those relationships.
- We're both aware that human interaction is performance, to a certain extent, and that attractiveness, among many other things, affects that. We find this interesting in itself, and we also discuss the choices we make about it.
- We both have work experience in industries where attractiveness was a contributing factor to success.
- Discussion of bodies (eg body image, or how fitness is affecting body shape).
And that's only my current partner. I'm pretty sure this topic has come up with most partners I've had?
(I also don't think that saying that "the sex isn't the best I've ever had" is the same as saying that it's so-so or in any way unsatisfying.)
(Given the way it's left her feeling, I think the guy is probably a douche. But I don't think that the topics are inherently insulting.)
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- General discussion of pros & cons of our relationship. We both have previous relationships where the cons were dealbreakers. We both care that we're attracted to our partner, but definitely don't care whether they're objectively attractive or a "10".
- Discussion of past relationships, and what attracted our partners to those relationships.
- We're both aware that human interaction is performance, to a certain extent, and that attractiveness, among many other things, affects that. We find this interesting in itself, and we also discuss the choices we make about it.
- We both have work experience in industries where attractiveness was a contributing factor to success.
- Discussion of bodies (eg body image, or how fitness is affecting body shape).
And that's only my current partner. I'm pretty sure this topic has come up with most partners I've had?
(I also don't think that saying that "the sex isn't the best I've ever had" is the same as saying that it's so-so or in any way unsatisfying.)
(Given the way it's left her feeling, I think the guy is probably a douche. But I don't think that the topics are inherently insulting.)